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[gothwalk]

I've just spoken to a doctor from the clinic where I'm getting the vasectomy done. She's agreed to do it, but she also tried to talk me out of it on the basis that I'm too young.

I don't understand this reasoning. At 25, I'm old enough to vote, drink, own a gun, drive a car, and, get this one, old enough to decide to have kids. Or, indeed, have six of them already. But I can't decide not to? Correct me if I'm wrong, but I would have thought that having kids was more of a decision than not having them. More life-changing, more expensive, more of a strain on an already over-strained planet?

<offensive>Goddamn Catholics.</offensive>

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[crowyhead.livejournal.com]

'Course, if by some chance there's some mind-changing in the future, there's always adoption. Having children doesn't necessarily entail actually biologically fathering (or mothering) them.

[hobbitblue.livejournal.com]

This is true.. there are so many kids needing homes. Which makes it a pity how many hoops prospective adoptive parents have to jump through to "prove" they can be trusted with kids when any moron can have sex and end up with a baby and then be a useless parent... but thats a whole 'nother rant :)

Adoption

[(Anonymous)]

Ok, I don't know many of the folks here (found this thread from an entry on Puritybrown's LJ) but had to jump on this comment:



OK, I'm with you on the second part of that. But speaking from wide experience, prospective adoptive parents have to jump through far few hoops. There are "Irish" kids sitting in Romanian orphanages now because some "nice", Irish, childless couples decided to adopt and "jumped through the hoops" - then found they couldn't cope. Solution: send the child back. There are dozens of Irish couples who jumped through the hoops, got approval to adopt, and then went to baby broker agencies and offered them a blank checkbook. The number one source for adoptions into Ireland for a while was Guatemala - where many adoption lawyers have been jailed for child trafficking (q.v. www.casa-alianza.org). Every week in the GRO, a civil servant has to tell someone for the first time that they've been adopted, because the adoptive parents who "jumped through the hoops" never bothered telling them. There are adoptive parents who, thanks to challenging the introduction of age limits, collect both a children's allowance and an old-age pension.

I could go on, but this isn't the place.

Adoption has to be in the best interests of the child - always. It should be about finding the best parents for the child, not the other way around. Sure, 'natural' families can screw that up, but at least in adoption it can be aspired to.

Respectfully,

Anton